Self Love and Being Happy

                     

    TEENAGER PROBLEMS

   SERIES - 2

    Today I’m gonna dive in  to the topic which is kinda important  for all us especially  for teens and that is 'self love and being happy' well  talking about self love? It reminds me of the time when I was in my early teenhood,  I was insecure about my weight and appearance, I was being bullied because I was healthy,  well I am still.. but those incidents left a really dark impression in my brain. I was at a stage where I started to hate myself, and going through that phase was really tough for me, but I’m really lucky because I’ve such amazing people in my life, my mum and dad who made me realise that accepting yourself the way you are, and embracing the real you is an act of self love and self love is something which you should prioritise in your life for YOURSELF. And that’s what every teen parents should teach their wards. Accepting yourself independent of where you are in your life is the biggest act of self love we can give ourselves. 

I first started becoming more confident when I got into 9th grade. I started seeing that, I’m perfect the way I am and had big dreams and goals, I began to realise that I did not need to look like everyone else to feel confident and beautiful. When you stop comparing yourself with others you start to feel so many changes taking place around you. You feel more confident, you feel more empowered, you feel more YOU!, and that is where you start loving yourself, you start embracing your flaws with love.  

My dad always say that “never compare yourself and try to be someone else,  because when you do that you start to lose the real you, and no one is perfect, every person has his own flaws which he tries hide, instead of loving and accepting them, a person cannot be perfect but he or she can be a better version of themselves. They should work hard to be a better person in their lives" and that thing really hit me hard. Just like when you are in a place today where you don’t embrace yourself, embrace who you are, it is going to be hard to take a big step and become someone who does. It needs consistent practice.

Find out how it feels to be loved  - when things don’t go according to the plan we start to be harsh on ourselves, we start blaming ourselves for the failure of the task, at that moment start thinking that how would a person who loves you would act to it, what would they say, what would they do? They would definitely not betray , hate or judge you. They would definitely be kind, compassionate and loving to you and would try to help you out, no matter how the situation was. So that’s what you should do, don’t be harsh on yourself. Practice being kinder and nicer to yourself. 

Stop comparing yourself – comparing your flaws with someone’s success is definitely going to bring you to a stage of self hatred, understand that every individual is different from the other. The other person might be smarter than you, might be richer than, might be cooler than you, but that’s his life, you never know what problems he might be going through, he might be rich stud, living a luxurious life , having big mansion and updated with all new gadgets on instagram but he might be lacking peace in real life?. So we never  what’s going on in someone’s life and that’s the reason why we cannot compare ourselves or our lives with their. Spend your time nourishing and pampering yourself. 

Just take small and consistent steps towards achieving  a life you have been dreaming of, which brings care, love and joy in your life.  That shows that you care and respect yourself.

Surround yourself with good and positive people – make sure with what kind of people your spending time with, are they really good for your mental or spiritual growth? or are they toxic people in your life? be choosy when it comes to friends and partners, exchange your energy with the people you feel good with, it is really important. 

Start truly caring about yourself, eat healthy, exercise daily, do some yoga or indulge yourself in something you love like, dancing, singing, painting and there are so many things. Just do what makes you happy. And don’t be harsh on yourself, don’t do things to get them done but because you care about them. Indulge yourself in healthy activities, that would definitely bring some massive changes in your life. 

Just know that there’s no other person like you in this whole world. You not only deserve to be loved by the people around you but by the most important person and that is YOU!. It might be challenging for most teenagers but know that it’s a daily practice, which you can only achieve by practicing it daily.

No one else can offer these things to us. No one else can take our vitamins for us or prevent us from going into a self-loathing attack.We should learn to accept, love and embrace ourselves. I mean it’s something which is really necessary for all of us to know and to realise. So spread the love, be kind to yourself.